There's a word that I think is used too often in the media. And now it's permeating the blogosphere too. That word is "war." As a television news producer, I implore my colleagues not to use that word when describing anything other than an actual war. An argument, a disagreement, a scuffle, even a battle. But not a war. Wars are brutal, ugly, and tragic.
So all of this talk lately about "parenting wars" and "mommy wars" really irritates me. It's insulting to those who actually fight real wars. First off, let's end the "war." Second, let's everybody relax.
|Ladies, ladies: you're both smart and hard-working.|
And you're both making your kids uncomfortable.
Usually the loudest people aren't the best leaders. They're just attention seekers. Unfortunately, they get a lot of attention anyway.
|Found this gem to illustrate the ridiculousness |
of this whole "debate."
Look, I call my blog "Daddy Knows Less" because I DON'T have all the answers. I'm doing this for the first time. I've never had a five year-old daughter before. And if I have one again, I can assure you the same eating, sleeping, and potty training habits won't apply. I am here to share my account of my journey of fatherhood. Not offer help. When WE need help? We turn to our parents, our friends, a doctor. Maybe, but rarely, a book or magazine as a last resort. Inevitably, we go with our gut. Never a freakin' mommy or daddy blog. Please say it isn't so.
Being a dad blogger doesn't make me a good dad either. These are stories. Moments in time. Triumphs and failures. Yes, failures. We all have them as parents, no matter if we breastfeed our kids or not, and for however long. I would say most of us have way more triumphs. But we share the stories of the failures so everyone who reads us knows they are not alone. That we mess up too. (And a lot of times it's funny.)
Maybe a story about a failure inspires a conversation that ends up helping someone. But a blogger shouldn't preach. We should document, share, and engage. And we shouldn't judge or blast each other for our parenting styles or choices. Especially if someone is doing their best for their child.
Leave the advice to the professionals. Let's build a community where bloggers and readers can share their experiences. Leave wars to real soldiers.