"There's no question in my mind that he does exist. Just like love I know he's there waiting to be missed." -From A Year Without a Santa Claus
But some people say we're lying to our kids by telling them Santa is real. (Even I joked about it in a recent post.) I've seen several discussions of the subject this week. While I respect everyone's beliefs as much as I expect my own to be respected, I think the people who insist we are perpetrating a fraud against our children need to relax. Kids are smarter than a lot of people give them credit for. They believe what they want to believe until they are old enough to know better.
Santa is a tradition more than anything else. A tradition based on an actual person who died a long time ago. AN ACTUAL PERSON who was sainted. St. Nicholas. Santa Claus. Christmas, and giving, and gifts, and being good... all of those things don't just happen one day a year. They don't exist in some kind of yuletide vacuum. They happen every day, all year round, and every family handles them differently.
Santa lives in us. He lives in me and My Director and every other parent who chooses to believe and allows their children to believe. He lives in those children who dare to dream and imagine. Isn't that what we want our kids to do? To dream and imagine? To pretend.
Believing is about faith. When the time comes, and Peanut asks, I plan on telling her that Santa is real. In spirit. That having faith and believing in Santa means you have faith in me and your mom. The same goes for God. I'm tired of people of faith being ridiculed or denigrated for their beliefs. People of faith are not stupid. They are not ignoring facts. There's a reason it's called faith. It's a journey and it's a long and tough one filled with doubts. I am the first one to admit to having doubts.
My dad passed away almost ten years ago. He may not physically be here, but he still exists. In pictures and video. But more important, in stories and memories. In me. There is a quote from an Indian proverb that I share with loved ones when they lose someone who is close to them: "They are not gone who live in the hearts they left behind." It comforted me in the days and months after my father passed. Still does. Well, it not only applies to my dad, but to St. Nick and Jesus as well.
My dad passed away almost ten years ago. He may not physically be here, but he still exists. In pictures and video. But more important, in stories and memories. In me. There is a quote from an Indian proverb that I share with loved ones when they lose someone who is close to them: "They are not gone who live in the hearts they left behind." It comforted me in the days and months after my father passed. Still does. Well, it not only applies to my dad, but to St. Nick and Jesus as well.
Kids need faith. They need to believe. They also need magic, and fantasy, and pretend, and Santa. They need to dream the impossible and think it's possible. That's not only what makes us people of faith, but great thinkers as well.
Santa is real. His beautiful spirit of generosity, joy, and love is alive in me. In all of us. You just have to believe.
Peanut helped me believe in the magic again. Click here to read about her first REAL Christmas.
Beautifully said. We can all believe what we choose to believe. I admittedly a skeptic of a lot of things, but if your faith in something is part of what drives you, who am I to argue?
ReplyDeleteThis is perfect. That is all I can say. Perfect.
ReplyDeleteI am a believer too. I loved every last word of this! What a beautiful piece!
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriends mother told me I was a terrible mother because I wouldn't let her tell my almost 3 year old that Santa isn't real. She tried making me feel horrible about it, saying that I am going to destroy his future by lying to him, and that he'll resent me for the rest of his life. I wanted to shove her down a flight of stairs.
ReplyDeleteWonderful and beautifully said!
ReplyDeleteLove this :)
ReplyDeleteWell said.
ReplyDeleteThought I would share with you another wonderful post for when the question *does* come from Peanut ...
ReplyDeleteThe Truth About Santa: http://www.cozi.com/live-simply/truth-about-santa
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I still tell my kids (all grown adults) that there IS a Santa. The Love and Peace come from "Our Reason for the Season" but the joy and fun and camaraderie come from Santa. He makes sure we all have fun and crazy times. I see my kids doing the same with their kids and it's fun to watch them wondering! I may pay for it and I may cook it and I may have given birth to these children but Santa has helped me all the way and they are just fine!!
ReplyDeleteWow...beautifully written. I quit believing in Santa YEARS ago...but after reading this, I BELIEVE again. Love, love, love this! Thanks & Merry Christmas to you & yours!
ReplyDeleteWow...beautifully written. I quit believing in Santa YEARS ago...but after reading this, I BELIEVE again. Love, love, love this! Thanks & Merry Christmas to you & yours!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this. I certainly believe in Santa. He lives in our hearts and minds and every child's love. Santa still does stockings at our house and my youngest is 31! Keep up the great work.
ReplyDeleteBelieve in the magic. The excitement the joy and the happiness. What a great post!
ReplyDeleteLike you, I don't think anyone should be ridiculed for having faith and that's coming from someone who isn't the leas bit religious. Faith, to me, proves you are capable of finding good or value or truth where others cannot see it.
ReplyDeleteSanta is such a special part of Christmas for so many reasons. Santa is and will always be part of our family's tradition.
This really couldn't have been better said or better explained! Kids do need magic, pretend, etc! Thank you for sharing. I am going to share this post with my own fb peeps!
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