Wednesday, August 8, 2012

The Coolest Birthday Gift Ever

One year ago today, My Director gave me what I still consider, as you could tell by the title of this post, the coolest birthday gift ever. She wrote this guest post - the first ever on DKL - in honor of  my 36th birthday. She is not a writer, says she had no fun doing it, but did it anyway because she loves me. And she hit it out of the park. Today I'm 37, but this post is still just as awesome. Enjoy:

Who is DKL really? He writes freely and honestly, but how honest can anyone truly be about themselves? Well, in this first ever guest blog post, I, his wife, am here to tell you on this very special day- his birthday, who he really is.

He is indeed all of the things he says he is: narcissistic, needy and self-absorbed. But he sells himself short. He is also sensitive, kind, and loves me more than I ever thought one person could. Does he have a temper? Yes. Is he moody like a woman at that time of the month? Often. Self critical? Too much. In fact, he asks a little too often for a male if I think he looks fat (a side effect of being a fat kid growing up). But what I have always been drawn to is what is underneath that gruff exterior once you scratch the surface.

He truly is a 36 year old man.
If asked, I would have to say that one of my favorite traits about my husband is that he is a big kid at heart. He becomes whatever character the Peanut asks him to and allows that character to consume him. Whether it's Zurg from Toy Story or Aladdin her prince. It does not matter how foolish it may be. He stays in full character.

He often gets annoyed with my mom when he comes home from work and the playroom is staged from their latest pretend world. But you know what? On the days when he is home with the Peanut, what do I come home to? A pretend world and a mess. Most recently it was a train made out of chairs with all of her stuffed animals in the seats with him at the head as the conductor:

All aboard the Mess Express!

Oh, he and my mother are more alike then he would ever be willing to admit...

No one is funnier than dad.
What only enhances his being a big kid is that he is also truly very funny. No one, and I mean no one, can make the Peanut belly laugh harder than he can. Our house is filled with the echoes of "More Daddy, do it one more time" until they are both on the floor laughing. Exhausted. One of her favorites is when he collapses on her and pretends to be asleep until I come to save her and tickle him.

During a recent tour of the Ben and Jerry's factory in Vermont, the tour guide was having some very embarassing technical difficulties when trying to show a movie. The crowd was hushed. That's when my husband asked the group if anyone had checked if the TV was on Channel 3.

He got more laughs at that moment than the tour guide did the whole tour. What warmed my heart the most is how my daughter turned to me and asked with a smile on her face, "Were they all laughing at Daddy?" She was so amused by that. In that moment, I was reminded of one of the many reasons I love him.

I see his humor in her and will be forever thankful that she got this from him because laughter will always allow us as a family to enjoy each other and for others to enjoy us.

Always reminding us that
there is no reason to cry
over spilled milk.
DKL is also the person who grounds us and keeps us real. At times I have a tendency to get worked up over the smallest things. He is always the one who brings me back to reality. Reassuring me that we can handle anything.

One of my favorite pieces of advice MY father ever gave me was right before we became parents. He told me as long as we put each other first as a couple our family will remain strong and intact. He said, "Your children are of course important and you will love them more than you ever thought possible. But it is your relationship as husband and wife that is the most important. If your kids see that you are a unit and are always there for each other, your family will be stronger for it."

Now, I don't mean to brag, but those who know us often say that one of the most obvious traits DKL exhibits is his love for me. It is for this alone, that I know our family will always be alright. His ability to love. I know he has the largest piece of his heart reserved for me and next in line is the Peanut (and Luna).

We are definitely a couple who bickers, but our ability to move past our differences and always work on making us better is what will allow us to live a long happy life together.
DKL and me: Best Friends.
I don't mind that our daughter sees us in our best and worst moments together because she also sees the commitment we have towards each other.

Over the past four years, I have loved being able to see my husband express himself to all of you through this blog. I worry at times that his writing for the masses may cause him to lose himself and write to please all of you. My promise in all of this is to always be the one behind him making sure he is true to himself because to me, DKL in his purist form is the man I love and the blogger who is going to go far.

Happy Birthday to a Daddy who says he knows less, but knows a lot more than he thinks.

I have a new post of my own appearing on You Know It Happens At Your House Too today. It's a funny post about the moment I realized we can't spell in front of Peanut anymore. You can read it here.


  1. Awww, that was sweet! Happy Birthday!

  2. Very, very, very awesomeawesomeawesome! :)

  3. That was very awesome! You two are so adorable -- and Peanut too! I can tell from reading DKL's posts and FB comments the high regard, respect and love he holds his Director. This is very, very special and not as common as you think. You are all very blessed, especially Peanut to see that this is how a man must feel about her when she grows up. Happy Birthday!!!
    Monica E.F. VB

    1. Thank you for noticing. That means a lot to us. It's not that I wrote about my feelings for My Director for the attention, or for a pat on the back. It's to show people it's ok to feel this way about the person they love and express it in whatever way they feel comfortable. (Blogging, for instance.) And I want Peanut to know that she shouldn't settle for anything less.

  4. Very sweet, heartfelt, and well written. I wonder if anyone has ever written something about her/his spouse that involved the phrase, "I'm so glad my spouse is completely devoid of humor. I hate smiling and he/she accommodates me by being very dry and serious at all times."

    1. Hahaha. I doubt that. Maybe perhaps Frasier Crane at some point in reference to Lillith. Then again, they did end up together.





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